You are not worried you have control issues.

Have you ever found yourself giving unsolicited advice? Correcting a family member before you say good morning. Commenting on a relative's body on Thanksgiving. Intergjecting in the middle of someone's task telling them to do it differently. In 2025 I hope we can as growing, maturing, and caring humans master the art of something, no it's not not giving a fuck, it's minding our business. Your need to direct the trajectory of someone's relationships and habits is not caring it is a decentered need for control disguised as consideration. In simplistic terms telling someone what they “need” to do better is easy, forcing ourselves to be better is hard. Immersing ourselves in circumstances that do not affect us is a way to distract ourselves from our responsibilities. I don’t say this to be a bitch and if you take it that way fine. You deserve your presence. You deserve that nudge from yourself. You owe it to yourself to use your wisdom to elevate your own life. Do not be concerned with who isn’t participating, take what is already in your hands and make it happen. #carpediem.